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Do you owe your gifts to the world?

Just because you’re good at something, doesn’t mean you have to do it

von reyes
4 min readJan 3, 2024
“inspiration journal” by carolina christine on Unsplash

Where are my gifted kids at? The kids who are incredibly adaptable, can pick up a new skill overnight and be proficient in a week, are valued for the quality and volume of their output — this one is for us.

I’ve always been a high-performing person, since early childhood. I was placed in honors classes in the fourth grade and began taking national aptitude tests for college prep in second. I was always in the top percentile of my classes, and my best friend and I in high school were in a playful competition to rank either 8th or 9th in our class (I don’t remember where we each landed now).

This set me on a pathway to success, graduating Magna Cum Laude with my Bachelor’s and with a 4.0 with my Master’s. I published papers and presented at conferences before I was 23. I don’t believe in the myth of meritocracy, as a baseline, but I certainly didn’t have the advantages of a lot of my peers that often leads to success in traditional contexts.

I wrote about this in my essay Moxie, and the summary is this: I have some intrinsic driving force that pushes me to claw my way toward any goal I set my mind to with a low margin of failure.

This is not a self-aggrandizing essay, as I actually find these qualities to be value-neutral. Something I’m discovering as I enter 2024 (the year with which I will turn the big 30), is that these qualities are only valued because of the transactional, outcome-driven society I was raised in. The U.S. Empire is barreling faster and faster toward late-stage capitalism, and my high-output work ethic is especially valuable in this context.

I’ve been rewarded for this over and over again, since before I understood how it feeds the machine. I’ve been addicted to the dopamine hit of success, praise, and triumph since before I ever hit puberty. As a result, I have been largely divorced from what it is I want to do. I’ve been presented with this question many times in my life:

Do you owe your gifts to the world?

I’m still discovering the answer, but I’ve been in therapy a long time to unlearn my performance-driven worldview. The…

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