Do you owe your gifts to the world?

Just because you’re good at something, doesn’t mean you have to do it

Von Reyes
4 min readJan 3, 2024
“inspiration journal” by carolina christine on Unsplash

Where are my gifted kids at? The kids who are incredibly adaptable, can pick up a new skill overnight and be proficient in a week, are valued for the quality and volume of their output — this one is for us.

I’ve always been a high-performing person, since early childhood. I was placed in honors classes in the fourth grade and began taking national aptitude tests for college prep in second. I was always in the top percentile of my classes, and my best friend and I in high school were in a playful competition to rank either 8th or 9th in our class (I don’t remember where we each landed now).

This set me on a pathway to success, graduating Magna Cum Laude with my Bachelor’s and with a 4.0 with my Master’s. I published papers and presented at conferences before I was 23. I don’t believe in the myth of meritocracy, as a baseline, but I certainly didn’t have the advantages of a lot of my peers that often leads to success in traditional contexts.

I wrote about this in my essay Moxie, and the summary is this: I have some intrinsic driving force that pushes me to claw my way toward any goal I set my mind to with a low margin of failure.

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Von Reyes

A sociologist attempting to build a life of joy, ease, and authenticity for us all between seeing my favorite bands live. vonreyes.com